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Anonymous said:
What's after?  

spankingkink:

a het harry fic on wattpad that romanticizes domestic abuse, specifically mental but theres some physical as well. it’s digusting and it’s being published. like in actual print. on paper. and she’s getting six figures for it. she’s getting a six figure paycheck for teaching young girls that abuse is ‘cute’ and ‘romantic’ and that when he beats up your guy friends, it’s just ‘cause he really loves you! and that when he deliberately ruins your chances of living in an apartment in your dream city so you can go to your dream college its because he really loves you! and when he goes off his temper and makes you feel like shit and sometime physically abuses you, it’s ok!! he gets angry sometimes!! he’ll say he’s sorry, take him back, he really loves you!!

it’s fucking disgusting.

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allicouldsaywashello:

I honestly can’t put into words how disgusted and disturbed I am about this After business. 

Domestic violence is never romantic, and if you are choosing to use After as a form of sex education, or as a template for your current/future relationship(s), I strongly encourage you to please educate yourself on domestic violence and to please seek help if this is a situation that you are currently in, or if it is a situation that someone you know is currently in. 

My judgement of your taste in literature aside, I cannot sit idly by when, statistically speaking, we know that rationalization for instances of domestic violence are usually a warning sign that domestic violence is being experienced in some way by the person who is rationalizing/making excuses.  Here are a few links you might find helpful, and if anyone else knows of more to add, please do:

Domestic violence hotlines and resources

Domestic violence education and therapy resources

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Anonymous said:
Why are there petitions to stop after??? Bc Anna changed the names in the book and movie so the boys wouldn't be involved. And most people have been involved and reading the book for awhile so I think it would be pretty harsh to just rip that dream away from Anna and the fans  

spankingkink:

larrycornhole:

spankingkink:

NO ONE CARES ABOUT THE FACT THAT ITS HARRY THAT IS SECONDARY TO THE REAL PROBLEM WHICH IS THAT IT FUCKING ROMANTICIZES MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL ABUSE

I DONT CARE ABOUT ANNA AND HER DREAMS OKAY I CARE ABOUT THE LITTLE GIRLS WHO ARE GOING TO READ THIS BOOK OR SEE THIS MOVIE AND THINK THAT THAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP IS DESIRABLE. I CARE ABOUT THE LITTLE GIRLS WHO WILL END UP IN A RELATIONSHIP LIKE HARRY AND TESSA’S. I CARE ABOUT THE LITTLE GIRLS WHO WON’T UNDERSTAND THAT THAT KIND OF RELATIONSHIP IS BAD AND HORRIBLE. I CARE ABOUT THE LITTLE GIRLS WHO WILL INTERNALIZE THE IDEAS PORTRAYED IN THE STORY. BECAUSE EVEN IF EVERYTHING ENDS UP HAPPY IN THE BOOK, THINGS /DONT/ IN REAL LIFE. ABUSERS VERY VERY VERY RARELY STOP ABUSING. ABUSERS VERY VERY VERY RARELY CHANGE. I DO NOT CARE ABOUT ANNA’S CRUSHED FUCKING DREAMS, I CARE ABOUT LITTLE GIRLS’ CRUSHED FUCKING SELF ESTEEMS AND EMOTIONS AND EVEN BODIES DEPENDING ON THE TYPE OF ABUSE THIS NOVEL MAKES THEM SUSCEPTIBLE TO. AFTER OPENS DOORS IN ITS READERS MINDS AND MAKES THEM DESIRE A RELATIONSHIP LIKE HARRY AND TESSA’S, THATS THE ROMANTICIZATION. IF YOURE ONE OF THE PEOPLE WHO’S GOING TO ARGUE AGAINST THAT, IM FUCKING PROOF OKAY. AFTER I READ AFTER I WANTED TO BE FAMOUS LIKE ANNA. I WANTED PEOPLE TO READ AND LOVE MY FIC. SO I WROTE A DARK HARRY FIC IN WHICH HE ONLY USES THE GIRL FOR SEX AND HE SEXUALLY HARASSES HER, BECAUSE I THOUGHT THAT WAS A GOOD STORY LINE AND GOOD BEGINNING TO A RELATIONSHIP BECAUSE THATS WHAT AFTER TAUGHT ME. I WROTE A DARK LOUIS FIC IN WHICH HE /RAPES/ THE ORIGINAL FEMALE CHARACTER, BECAUSE I THOUGHT THE MORE EXTREME YOU GO, THE MORE PEOPLE WILL READ IT. I THOUGHT THE MORE HE HURTED HER AND THEN WAS SORRY FOR IT, THE MORE BROKEN AND IRREPARABLE HE WAS, THE MORE PEOPLE WOULD ENJOY THE STORY. BECAUSE THATS WHAT AFTER TAUGHT ME.

BUT I CAME TO MY SENSES AND I REALIZED WHAT I WAS DOING AND I STOPPED. AND I REALIZED WHAT AFTER WAS DOING AND I STOPPED READING IT. BUT THERES LITTLE GIRLS LIKE THAT WHO WON’T REALIZE, AND THEYRE GOING TO LIVE THEIR LIVES WITH THIS IDEA THAT THE KIND OF RELATIONSHIP PORTRAYED IN AFTER IS HEALTHY, EVEN DESIRABLE, AND THEYRE GOING TO GET STUCK IN A SIMILAR SITUATION, BUT IT /WON’T END FOR THEM/ BECAUSE THIS IS REAL FUCKING LIFE.

I HONESTLY FORGET WHAT YOUR MESSAGE SAID AT THIS POINT BC IM ON MOBILE AND I CAN’T SEE IT, AND IM SORRY FOR THE CAPS, BUT THERE IS NO DEFENSE OF AFTER THAT WILL MAKE ME THINK DIFFERENTLY. THESE ARE THE FACTS. THE GOOD THING ABOUT FACTS IS WHETHER OR NOT YOU BELIEVE THEM, THEYRE STILL TRUE. AFTER IS TOXIC AND INDEFENSIBLE. AFTER ROMANTICIZES ABUSE. IM SORRY THAT WE’RE TRYING TO TAKE AWAY THE AUTHOR’S DREAMS, BUT SHE CAN GET A BOOK DEAL WITH SOMETHING THAT WON’T POTENTIALLY RUIN PEOPLE’S LIVES, WITH SOMETHING THAT WON’T TRIGGER PEOPLE WHO HAVE BEEN IN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIPS EXACTLY LIKE HARRY AND TESSA’S, WITH SOMETHING THAT PORTRAYS A HEALTHY RELATIONSHIP.

It’s just a book.

And politicians are just people! And advertisements are just video clips! And essays are just words! Oh my god!! Would you look at that!! Things can influence people!! What a fucking concept!!!!!!!!!! Fuck, why don’t I go into a church and tell those people its just a book!!!! Why don’t I interrupt the president someday to tell everyone he’s just a person!!! Wow!!!!!! Things influence people I cannot /believe/!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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jakebuggh:

17blacke:

My friend made a petition to help try and stop the creation of the After Movie. Fans of One Direction should not want Harry to be seen in the light that After portrays him in. Every signature helps.

Sign the petition here

i didn’t even sign it for that reason. i signed it because it is a sexist book that glorifies abusive and manipulative relationships. not only is it poorly written, it is very dangerous. this SHOULD NOT be made in to a movie, let alone published at all.

I SIGNED IT BECAUSE IT IS A SEXIST BOOK THAT GLORIFIES ABOUSIVE AND MANIPULATIVE RELATIONSHIPS.

I’m so mad becouse there is a lot of good, beaufitul fic in the internet but no…of course…Abusive relationship&sex is always the best topic. Welcome in XXI century.

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tiedandtrue:

i’m so disgusted with sugarscape rn.. here’s the link to the tweet & article in case you want to yell at them for promoting after.

tiedandtrue:

i’m so disgusted with sugarscape rn.. here’s the link to the tweet & article in case you want to yell at them for promoting after.

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emotional abuse, domestic abuse, assault tw

spankingkink:

thisisfuckingnotcool:

spankingkink:

if they’re going to talk about fanfiction in a bad light why not talk about how After romanticizes emotional abuse and manipulation and how 50 Shades of Grey is a bad representation of BDSM when it ignores safe words and leaves the girl uninformed but yeah some thirteen year olds writing something they enjoy is SO much worse

After does NOT romanticise emotional abuse, it fucking shows that no matter how fucked up someone is, there’s still hope for happiness you beanbag!

verbal/emotional abuse definition: Saying or doing something to the other person that causes the person to be afraid and/or have lower self esteem. Trying to manipulate or control the person’s feelings or behaviors.

examples:

  • name-calling and put downs
  • insulting the person or their family (he insults her mom all the time and probably Tessa too)
  • yelling and screaming (do i even need to list a specific time)
  • harming or threatening harm to the person or the person’s friends, family, pets, and property (Harry beats up Zayn)
  • making unwanted comments/sending unwanted messages of a sexual nature to the person
  • intimidating the person
  • embarrassing the person in front of others
  • spreading negative rumors about the person (when Harry calls the landlord or whoever about the apartment Tessa wants to move in to and tells her that Tessa is a drug addict or something, that she brings home people every night. i dont remember specifics but i know that he ruins her chances.)
  • preventing the person from seeing or talking to friends and family (THIS. HAPPENS. ALL. THE. TIME. SHE’S LITERALLY NOT ALLOWED TO SEE ZAYN OR THE GIRL WHO WAS HER ROOMMATE FOR A WHILE)
  • telling the person what to do
  • making the person feel responsible for the violence or abuse (she’s angry that he’s yelling at her and he says that she shouldn’t make him so mad)
  • stalking (he was a bit creepy at the beginning idk if i’d say stalking tho)
  • making the person feel guilty about wanting to leave the relationship by talking about the abuser’s hard life and how alone and abandoned the abuser will feel if left
  • sharing sexual or nude pictures of the person that were given in confidence (the sheets. not technically in this category, but the fucking sheets.)

okay. so i took all those examples from my notes from the dating abuse unit we did in school this past year. I didn’t put in any that weren’t relevant to After, out of 26 examples 15 applied to After. And I didn’t even read the whole thing. This is only emotional/verbal abuse, there are a few, admittedly very few, examples of physical abuse.

And yes, this stuff is romanticized. This story teaches it’s young readers that a relationship like this one is desirable. It teaches readers that if their partner treats you this way, if they cry and beg for you back and say that they’re sorry then you should take them back. It teaches it’s readers that if this happens repeatedly that it’s okay. He manipulates her over and over and over again, and nearly each time she leaves him, he feels bad and cries, and she takes him back. It’s a toxic story with a young audience. Harry is emotionally abusive and manipulative and the fact that he’s based on Harry Styles and the fact that everything ends up happy (I assume, I never finished) is what romanticizes it.

Also, thank you for calling me a beanbag. Beanbags are soft and wonderful and everyone loves them.

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17blacke:

My friend made a petition to help try and stop the creation of the After Movie. Fans of One Direction should not want Harry to be seen in the light that After portrays him in. Every signature helps.

Sign the petition here

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2splouky:

The first picture is from an article on the site Jezebel, and the second from a romance author’s comment.
I don’t think people understand: this woman used Harry Styles to portray a horrifically bigoted, abusive asshole and is getting paid for it. She is rumored (confirmed?) to be getting a book/movie deal based off her THREE PART fanfic, where from what I gather, is an even worse 50 Shades of Grey-esque piece of shit. The fact that the book started as fanfic has nothing to do with it; the fact that she chose to write about an abusive relationship in a way that is trying to portray this sort of harrassment as OK is everything.
If I were Harry Styles (or any member of One Direction or their Team) I would be FURIOUS that she is using her sick fantasies to gain a profit.
Let me tell you something: the One Directipn fan base has a variety of fans that vary in different ages. Hell, my dad is a fan as well as my six year old cousin. And that’s what scares me the most. What 12 year old girl wouldn’t LOVE to see the movie based off her favorite band member? This author, this TWENTY FIVE YEAR OLD WOMAN, should have known better than to write something so horrid. With it kept on the Internet as an unpublished work of fanfic, it’s fine. Not ideal, but still it can be dealt with. But now that it may suddenly be in every bookstore, next to books by James Patterson and J.K. Rowling? (For example). I cannot fathom my repulse towards her lack of judgement.
Cause let me tell you: this is not OK. Because no matter how much she tries to seperate her “literature” from where it originated, it will always be linked back to Harry Styles and One Direction. She will STILL be portraying abusive relationships and douche bag boys as something to dream about.
I’m not even sure if this made sense, I am so FURIOUS and I have written this rant about four times now and I’m sure I’ve left something out I will want to go back in and add.
But these are my thoughts, feel free to drop me an ask with your own opinions, sorry to disturb your scrolling.

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Captain America 3 is going to go up against Batman vs. Superman, you may of heard…

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jacklesonmymind:

i miss happy dean

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ballvvasher:

NOW MY LIFE IS SWEET LIKE EVANSTAN

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